Monday, July 03, 2006

Celebrating One Year of Marriage: Part I

I Love this Photo that Sarah Heidebrecht Took of Yuko and Me on Our Daily Walk because I think it Makes Us Look like Pooh and Piglet . . . or Christopher Robin and Pooh . . . or Something Like That

The overhaul of this site’s template and sidebar was largely done in celebration of our first wedding anniversary—thus the large “Wedding Photos” section and the slideshow download. In a post I wrote last January, exactly a year and a half ago, I said that our shared faith in Jesus Christ and a Biblically informed view on marriage was “the source of the trust we have in each other to journey towards our golden anniversary with equal fervour and tenacity regardless of the nasty surprises, disappointments and inconveniences that are bound to sideswipe us at one time or another.” So far we have been spared the anticipated “nasty surprises, disappointments and inconveniences.” These will, no doubt, come when we leave our relatively secure financial situation here in Kazamaura for the uncertainties of seminary life at Wycliffe College at the University of Toronto next fall, and as our children (as yet unborn) grow to be wilful and demanding human juveniles.

Yuko and I Open a Package from Her Parents Containing a Brand New Handycam with Which to Make Home Movies of Our Daughter for Them when She is Born (Never Fear, Keitai Cinema will Carry on in it’s Tradition of Using Only Cell Phones for Filming)

In the meantime, living by this principle shared with us by (among other people) our premarital counsellor has led to a very peaceful first year of marriage: 「譲り合うこと」. . . “deferring to one another.” If only one person is doing all of the deferring the relationship is an abusive one, but when two people are simultaneously deferring, one to the other, it’s a pleasant way to live. Talking to other young people, I get the distinct impression that many of them cannot summon up the courage or desire to get married because they neither wish to defer to the same person for the rest of their lives nor have faith that someone would ever do the same for them.